I used to ASK why all the time. Why is the sky blue? Why are the clouds white? Why this and not that? Why do I have to do that? (My husband says it's because I am so curious. Granted my middle name starts with a "Y". Tee hee!!!) And then over the years when things happened that I could not comprehend, my question became: Why me? OR Why is this happening to me?
Now, having studied this BE-have-ior, I see that this pattern was imprinted. This is my Mom's favorite question, my Grandpa's and who knows how many generations back it goes.
What I have found to be true, is asking the WHY question keeps me stuck. It keeps me in denial of what is occurring looking for an explanation instead of accepting what is and finding a way to move forward or INward.
I heave learned to reframe and ask another question which helps me cope and understand better - WHAT - What is there here for me to learn? What is the gift of this moment? What can I do next? What do I know to be true? So many powerful and EMpowering questions.
The What question lets me investigate and explore. It allows the moment to reveal the truth - perhaps not like I expected it but rather in all its fullness and beauty. And how it fits into the big picture of life. Or as I once read, reMINDing myself that I am in Chapter TWO of my life and that the whole story may not be revealed until Chapter SEVEN.
And just like a favorite book, the What question keeps me anticipating with joy all the wonderful things I will discover on my journey.